Mothers

If there is one guy friend of mine I'll probably always love unconditionally its Jon.

Bold statement isn't it? Well let me be realistic. He IS my mother (inside joke really. If you watch the video "Daughters" by Derick Comedy on YouTube you might sort of get it) ANYWAY. He is one of those guys that puts things into a realistic perspective. Always. No, he's not a dream crusher. No, he's not really a pessimist. But he has a great way of taking your high expectations and irrational fears and leveling them out in realness without killing dreams or making you feel stupid.
The amount of times he has been there for me and let me bitch about things to him gives him a sort of special "motherly" quality. He's more of the "tough love" sort in "mothering" but he can handle that just fine.

When he promised that he's be in my court of honor for my quinceanera on aim. I still remember that he accepted saying "I'd be honored to be in your court of honor". Corny as it is, I still remember it about 5 years later so it must have been something right? He has a funny sense of humor in that way since he is in LOVE with puns and anyway to play around with words.
I really appreciated that he was one of the few guys that actually stayed on board with being in my court of honor for my quinceanera. I had to shrink my court with some boys dropping out or being inconsistent about showing up to practice. He even stepped up to be my dance partner in 2 of the 3 dances my cousin couldn't handle learning with his senior year of high school. It still touches me that he stuck by his word a year later and then some. In the end, the performances went on without a hitch.


That was just one party but our friendship goes further than that. Whenever we talk about something I'm upset about he makes one thing very clear. I have to pick up past it or I'm going to make things worse and enter a midlife crisis. Its something I've tried to incorporate more into my life. I've found that my life seems brighter since then.

All through my schooling until I was enrolled in college I feel as if I let a lot of experiences I could have had go right past me. My goal before I even started school was to go to college. Why did I want to go to college? I'm not sure. Its not as if my mom forced it on me since I was born, its just something I saw as important. My entire student career has been based on getting the best grades for myself so that I would get into a good college and get a good job. Since I've had this harsh tunnel mindset to reach my goal of college, I never really allowed myself to live up my time in high school. Its not something I noticed until towards the end of my senior year. When it hit me I realized why little things like not the greatest grades used to phase me as if I couldn't do better and that it would throw off my entire future. I didn't look forward to anything else.

What did that entire thing have to do with Jon? He's the one that really pointed it out to me (although not in so many words). Sure I had friends. Sure I was a cheerleader. But I never went out of my way for a new experience or anything too risky. That isn't necessarily a problem but the way I did that and then would get scared and overreact every time I got a bad grade really brought me down to believe that I was going to be a failure at life. Now that I look at my college life I take every thing I do one day at a time and its been wonderful.

If Jon has taught me anything about life, its to really go out there and live it. He parkours. He plays guitar. And he is an honors student. Not only do I appreciate his friendship but I also admire him not only in this way but the way he likes to avoid unnecessary conflict. I've come across so many people that I simply stopped talking to over time because they were two-faced with their own friends and gossiped for no reason. He has always been above that sort of thing, which is refreshing in this day and age.

At the end of the day I love this guy because of his classic and honorable qualities mixed with a dynamic personality and a genuine care for me. Everyone needs that one friend to parent and watch over you to make sure you don't go crazy. He's seen me at my best, probably my worst, and my crazy and somehow magically accepts me. For that I am grateful. We still live on the same peninsula and go to school in the same city. I'm happy to say we haven't truly lost touch with each other in our 5 years of friendship. I'm looking forward to many more puns, music, random insiders, and leaving random items at his house.

Adventure Time!